Subhash K Jha Speaks To His Rakhi-Sister Raveena Tandon On Her Birthday
So how old are you today?
I am as old as want to feel every day. On some days I wake up feeling I am 80. On other days I feel I am just starting out it in life. You are as young or old as you want to be.
But seriously it’s sinful to have a sister as sexy as you?
(laughs uproariously) Who told you to make me your sister? Jokes apart, life feels good , wonderful. I’ve never felt better.I’ve two lovely children who are growing up well and not over-pampered,touchwood.
You’ve been married for 13 years. What’s it been like?
Anil(husband Anil Thadani) has been the best thing to have happened to my life. He understands me completely, better than I understand myself. He gives me space to make mistakes but steps in if a situation gets out of hand. His supportive and protective, but not intrusive.
While marriages are crumbling apart in the entertainment business why has your remained steadfast for so long?
You are making it sound like a crime(laughs). No, if you’re asking me the secret recipe for a successful marriage, there is none. One rule every marriage must follow is to give your spouse the space to breathe. Holding him him accountable for every minute of his life calling to check on him constantly.Tum kahan ho, kisske saath ho, Phone itni der se kyon uthaya …not happening. Stop complaining and start enjoying the partnership before it’s too late.
Why are so many marriages falling apart in your world?
If by my world you mean the show-world then let me quickly remind you that marriages are falling apart in equal measures in other walks of life too. It’s just that actors are in the limelight .Every move is scrutinized.And that’s one of the reasons why marriages are in trouble.Every slip-up is magnified.
Do you find it hard to dress up and be at your best the minute you step out?
Haan yaar. It’s tough. Nowadays you can’t repeat shoes, clothes, bags. The photographers are everywhere. Even if you go to school to pick up your kids you have to make sure you are dressed up.
Are you happy with the roles coming to you?
I can’t complain. I still get to do something like Maatr where the entire film revolves around me. I am not really dying to do any and every thing that comes my way. I’ve done enough films. There was a time when I slogged round the clock doing three shifts a day. Now my first priority is my family.
What makes you look so good after 40?
You had to remind me of my age, huh? I guess it’s very important to find inner peace. Be grateful for what life gives you.And don’t hanker for what you don’t have. What’s not yours is probably never meant to be .
What does Raveena Tandon think when she’s alone?
She thinks she has one life to live, so enjoy every God-given moment instead of frittering precious time in ugly mudslinging and controversies. That’s not the way I am even when people have tried to pull me down. My conscience is always clear. That’s why I’ve bounced back every time I have been trashed